I must confess that I do not agree with some individuals involved in the battle for gay marriage rights. Some folks have been equating the struggle for marriage rights to the arduous struggle for civil rights by African-Americans and Blacks.
No. No. No no no.
While I feel the government should have no involvement dictating a relationship between two (or more) people, I find it rather disgusting to compare the two battles for rights. So, you can’t get married. Yes, it’s a big deal, but, were you able to vote for your rights? Have you ever been considered someone elses property?
Speaking of “or more,” an issue I’d never really thought about before all of this is polygamy. If someone were to ask me today to legalize polygamy, I’d most certainly vote for it. Again, sticking to my assertion of not being involved in another person’s personal or sexual life. Since I don’t support tax benefits for married couples, each person in a polygamous marriage would still have to pay individual taxes, so no big change/difference there (based on my views, anyways). But another complicated concept arises with the legalization of polygamy–in a two person marriage/relationship, one spouse has rights to the other’s property and livelihood in the event of death or other unfortunate-ness. Who has that right in a marriage with one “husband” and several wives? Interesting issues, indeed, but not complicated ones to figure out through the eyes of the law.
Prostitution? Legalize it, but regulate it like any other business. Pay taxes like any other person with a tradtional, taxable job. Don’t want to work in a legalized brothel, like the Bunny Ranch? Fine, be self employed, and follow the same rules and regulations that apply to my father, a self-employed HVAC. I would consider prostitution as more of a job than a personal choice, hence the government involvement and taxation, because a “good” is being exchanged for a “service.” Perhaps a job with more perks than a desk job at your local bank, if you know what I mean, but a job nonetheless. Think of the tax revenue if prostitution was legal! I don’t think it is entirely fair to mandate actors in the porn industry to take STI/HIV tests, but socially it is responsible and I think film businesses should have the right to access to those tests in order to keep other actors safe. Not a government mandate, but a business standard, so to speak.
I think Dan Savage, an openly gay syndicated columnist, author, and media pundit, author of “Savage Love,” says it best during a recent interview with DL Hughley: See interview here.
“It needs to be articulated around religion and homosexuality is that you can have your theology and also sign off on gay and lesbian civil rights and full enfranchisement, including marriage. You know, a lot of Christians think Jews are going to hell. Right? And yet Jews can get married in our culture. No one’s attempting to strip Jews of their civil rights in our dominant Christian culture.”
To which DL replies: “You stand before God and you vow to love and to cherish this woman or this man. And so I think people have a — I know particularly people that I talked to — had a hard time unhooking the religious component from the civil.”
And this has been my point, all along, when fervently trying to explain mine and Tyler’s relationship:
“But we’ve long unhooked the religious component from the civil component because you can go to city hall and get married and God will not be invoked. Those are the marriage licenses that we want. We don’t want to storm into anybody’s church and force anybody’s preacher or any religious person to observe our wedding.”
THANK YOU, DAN SAVAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!